What drama can I disengage with?
I enjoy social media. I have to like it to some degree because I have my own personal blog, lol! I’m also a bit of a cultural junkie in the sense that I enjoy (now in moderation) a slice of celebrity gossip. The latest piece that has gotten my attention was Victor Cruz and his fiancee, Elaina.
There are plenty of stories on what’s going on between them, but what I’m focusing on is my response to it. I have a very strong stance on women who decide to confront the mistress (or mistresses, depending on how your man gets around) instead of the offending partner. I feel like I hear this story so much; how a woman finds out that her man is cheating and instead of packing her things and leaving, she lashes out at the other women; calling them names and degrading them. Filling themselves up with an air of importance because they have the ring and the house…even though they don’t have their man’s attention or even affection. So I got upset and on my personal page, I made an open letter of the sort about her. How after going through his phone and getting proof that he’s cheated that she won’t leave. I’ve always been a champion for the underdog, even if the underdog is a side chick to a very famous athlete.
I’ve realized that I spoke on a situation that I know very little about. I talked about a woman that I don’t know. I also tore down another woman, which is what I don’t want to do or even be known for anymore. So today, I am making a promise to myself. I want to at the very least, have compassion for every woman. If my opinion wasn’t asked in a certain situation, I’m just going to leave it alone. There is a drama in getting involved in other people’s personal affairs. You feel like the authority and wield your opinion accordingly. I’ll admit that I saw this from my own vantage point and knowing my “deal breakers” is cheating. I judged a woman because she didn’t handle it the way that I felt she should’ve, and that was wrong.
My pre-school teacher had the best Life Hack in the world: If you don’t have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all.